Russian girls in Africa: how to get into "real hell"

Today, hundreds of thousands of Russian women are scattered around the world - at one time they married foreign citizens and left with their new husbands in their native countries.


This is not only about the USA, Japan, Europe or even Turkey. Many Russians married Africans - citizens of tropical Africa. When their young people studied in Russia, they seemed to be modern men, loyal to women and not imposing their lifestyle and their views on the world. Often this is true, but not so rare are situations when a Russian woman goes to Africa with her husband and ends up in "real hell."



Most marriages with Africans, regardless of which country the husband comes from - from Mali or Cameroon, Nigeria or Angola - have a number of common problems. It’s not only a matter of the language barrier, but Russian girls don’t know the local languages ​​- it’s in Russia, at the university, a dark-skinned guy spoke Russian and said that his native language is English, and in his homeland he will speak with others in Zulu or Swahili, Yoruba or Fula.

The first thing a Russian woman needs to know is that she marries not only her beloved man, but also all his relatives - parents, numerous grandmothers, sisters, aunts, nephews. In Africa, it will not work to distance oneself from the parental family - this is neither Russia nor Europe. Constant communication with the husband’s relatives will become the wife’s responsibility. African relatives, of course, will not always be ready to accept a woman with a different culture, and even so strikingly different in appearance.

Secondly, in most affluent African families, especially if they profess Islam, young women do not work. It will be very difficult for a Russian wife to find a job, and her husband and relatives will oppose this. She will remain the role of a home recluse, engaged exclusively in childbirth, childcare and household maintenance, and African relatives will always point out the shortcomings of housekeeping - what to do, in Guinea or Sudan they "manage" differently than in the Moscow Region or the Don.

An African man not only does not see anything reprehensible in having a mistress, he is also ready to defend this right in front of his wife. She can easily get it for trying to intervene in her husband’s lifestyle. And most importantly, those around him, primarily the relatives of the man, will always support him. Since the Russians remained their relatives and friends for thousands of kilometers, in faraway Russia, she would not have to rely on anyone else's support.

Even getting a divorce from an African husband is not so simple as with a European and, moreover, “his native” Russian. In almost all cases, a divorce will only mean fleeing back to Russia, without property and without children. It is good if the husband generally allows him to leave the country, but there were also cases when the Russians disappeared without a trace in African countries.

Of course, it is better to always adhere to the principle "where he was born, he came in handy there (married, got married)." But since a dark-skinned young man is dear to his heart, in no case should one agree to leave for Africa and live according to its conditions and its rules. This, incidentally, is also said by many women who have been married to natives of distant tropical countries and relying on their own experience. Although there are quite successful Afro-Russian marriages, as a rule, they are, firstly, concluded with truly cultured men who hold European views on life, and secondly, in this case, the man remains in Russia and begins to live as is customary here.